Do you ever catch yourself comparing your image, your life, your family, your circumstances to others around you? I know I have. I had an eye opening conversation with my therapist last week that I wanted to share with you.
When we compare ourselves to others we are only seeing their outsides. We are seeing the “face” they put on for different situations. Thinkabout it, we all have a work “face”, a friend “face”, an out in public “face”, a social media “face”. We put on this facade or persona (sometimes unintentionally) when presented in different situations. Most people act different at work than they do out with their friends. We all do. That’s how we naturally learned to adapt in society.
My therapist said to me “We are looking at our insides and others outsides.” And that resonated with me so much. I never thought of it like that. I am seeing all these people and their wonderful lives, amazing pictures, story book families and I am seeing my hectic, chaotic, sometimes crazy inside. Of course it looks different. How could it not? It’s like when we go to an interview and we put on our best outfit, we do our hair and makeup perfectly, we make a list of things we want to discuss. We are so prepared to put our best self out there.
Is that the REAL us? When my therapist pointed out that we often are comparingwhat we see on our insides versus everyone else’s insides I realized that no one is really “real” all the time. We put on so many different hats in every situation.
Let’s stop. Let’s stop trying to be perfect. Let’s stop trying to be the best person in a particular situation. Instead lets be ourselves; through and through. Who do you feel most comfortable around? For me, thats my husband. I am my most real and honest self around him. Now, I am not going to walk around in my underwear with chocolate chip cookies in my hand in front of the world….but I am going to focus on being true to myself in every situation. Be real for my friends, my family, my coworkers, social media.
Let’s be authentically who we are, all the time, NO APOLOGIES NEEDED.